In today’s Internet-oriented world many things became possible just sitting on a coach at home. Conversations, searching for information, entertainment and even ordering food and drinks. No need to make a single effort to get out of the house.
However this is not how things used to work a decade or two ago. People were socializing in bars and restaurants, entertained themselves in theaters and cinemas and had a lot of friends and acquaintances to get and share information and knowledge.
But most importantly people where much more secure and happier with a good circle of social connections even living in a less secure and comfortable world. What are the reasons for that?
The reason is the nature of a human being. Human is a social creature which constantly needs validation to prove its own identity. Being alone and single leads to depersonalization, a person’s losing their role in society and social life. Depersonalization itself then leads to depression and anxiety which reflect the person’s behavior and makes them unhappy.
Let me tell you something. There were a lot of studies of how jail time affects people’s mental health. During one of the study people were divided into those who are allowed social connections with other prisoners and those who were not and who lived in a personal cell. The study showed that those who lived in a personal cell had much higher levels of depression and anxiety, were much more insecure and inconfident. Moreover over time they started loosing social skills and were very awkward to communicate with. And this is criminals who usually have “alpha” genes and fearless mindset!
Now we are all people in that environment where isolation comes naturally. We start getting the same feelings and unfortunately so far don’t have a good answer to that other then force socialize personally and keep social lifestyle as much a possible. Who knows – may be something will change overtime but now this is the only way to stay calm and socially confident.
